I mirror people. I’ve done it my whole life. And I think it’s really weird and now that I am starting to realize how often I do it, it’s kind of freaking me out.
For those of you who don’t mirror people, let me explain. I mirror your attitude, actions, word choice, anything I can. If you act insecure, I will act insecure. If you act kind, I will act kind. If you like me, I will like you. If you are rude to me, I will be rude to you. However, it’s not immediate and it’s not as obvious as it might sound.
It’s not that I don’t think for myself. I am just apprehensive about sharing my thoughts.
This has become a theological issue for me. Jesus addressed this particular issue specifically. Matthew 5:38-42: "You have heard that it was said, 'Eye for eye, and tooth for tooth.' But I tell you, Do not resist an evil person. If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also. And if someone wants to sue you and take your tunic, let him have your cloak as well. If someone forces you to go one mile, go with him two miles. Give to the one who asks you, and do not turn away from the one who wants to borrow from you.”
Here’s my confessional: I resist evil people. I would slap someone back if they slapped me. I would not be happy if someone sued me and I would resist giving them what they asked for, let alone something more. It’s rare that someone can force me to do anything and when they do, I go unhappily and make it difficult on them. I can come up with a number of good reasons why I don’t (or can’t) give you what you are asking of me. And I don’t like it when people borrow from me, especially if they have any reason to be untrustworthy.
So there you have it. I am a good person and care of the people in my life. I love my friends and family, I just have been thinking about this and wanted to confess.